Help! We Are Changing Schools
How to Help Tween Adjust to a New Learning Environment
Moving is hard for children. They are leaving their friends and the environment that they are comfortable with. Make changing schools easier with these tips.
Moving can be difficult on the whole family, but it is particularly difficult for children. They must move from where they are used to living, leave behind friends, and adjust to a whole new school.
Adjusting to a new school is perhaps the hardest part about moving when you have tweens. This is the age when they really start developing strong bonds and friendships. Bear in mind that it does take them time to get used to their new surroundings. If you are facing a move and a new school for your child, then consider the following tips.
Prepare Your Tween
When you know you are going to move and your child will need to attend a new school, take the time to prepare your child. Never spring a move without giving your child a chance to adapt to the coming events. They need time to get used to the idea and to say goodbye. This is especially true for changing schools in the middle of the school year. It isn't always possible to do this, but in most cases you do have notice before the big moving day.
Visit the New School if Possible
If you are able, take the time to visit the new school with your tween before moving. Let him tour the school, and meet the principal and the teachers. This will help your child know exactly what to expect on his first day at the new school. This also works out well for older kids that are moving not necessarily out of a new school district, but are moving up from elementary to middle school. Seeing the school and visiting can help ease a lot of jitters.
Take time to Say Goodbye
If you are moving in the middle of the year, then you will want to take the time to say goodbye to the old school, teachers, and friends. Ask the teacher if you can throw a going away party for your tween. You can bring in cookies and cupcakes and take lots of pictures. You may even think about making a scrapbook, or having all the kids in the class sign a T-shirt, picture frame, or an autograph book. Make sure you also give the children and the teacher information about how to stay in touch with your new address or email.
Talk About the First Day
Make sure you communicate with your child about what to expect the first day at a new school. Give him different scenarios that could take place, such as not meeting anyone new, potentially meeting a new friend, or feeling isolated. Be sure he knows this is normal and will get better over time. Ask your child about his feelings and get him to talk. They may love the idea of moving to a new school and show lots of enthusiasm. However, your child may be sad and may need some one-on-one time.
When your child has to change schools, no matter the age, take the time to let your child get used to the idea and he will have an easier time adjusting. Also be prepared to help your tween make new friends when the time comes. The quicker he feels like he fits into his new environment, the better.
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